HE SEES ME

By Karen DeArmond Gardner−

She tried not to complain, yet she was tired. Tired of only looking down, of the pain, longing for the day when she could stand up straight and look into someone’s eyes. For 18 years she lived staring at the ground, not able to look ahead, dependent on others to help her get through day, ignored by her husband until one day when he had enough and left her for a much younger, healthier woman.

Is this it? Is this all there is to life? Why her anyway? What did she do to deserve being bent over so her only view was the dirt? No one really saw her anymore, much less talked to her.  Whispers followed as she passed, wondering what great sin she had committed to be treated so harshly by God. Yet, each Sabbath she made to her way to synagogue praying today would be the day when her prayers would be answered.

Dear God, do you see me? Can you hear me? Though she could not see him his words pierced her heart. Not once in the 18 years she had been coming to Synagogue pleading her case with God to heal her had she heard anyone teach Torah as this man. Could he be The Teacher she had heard so much about? There were rumors he was the long awaited Messiah.

The Teacher stopped speaking and though she could not see him, he saw her. He looked at her with such tenderness, and called her by name to come to him. Startled, she could feel all eyes watching as she shuffled through the crowd. As she approached him, he said, “Dear woman, you are healed.” The most extraordinary thing happened…he touched her. She felt a warm flow through her body, as her body straightened. She looked into his beautiful brown eyes. His compassion overwhelmed her.

It’s true, He is the Messiah! Words of praise poured out of her. “He forgives my sins and heals all my diseases. He redeems me from death and crowns me with love and tender mercies.” (Psalm 103:3–4 NLT)

I imagine her regally walking out of the temple that day, until she was out of everyone’s sight. Then she would run as fast as she could, laughing, praising and maybe even skipping.

Does life have you bent over? Is the dirt of life all you see? Feel the warmth of His healing touch. Remember you are a beloved daughter of the King. Look into His beautiful brown eyes; see His love and compassion for you. “Dear woman, you are healed.”

Oh how He loves you.

 

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Karen DeArmond-Gardner: I found myself in my early 50′s shattered, divorced and without a job – moving to a new state to begin over again. There were times I thought the “start would stop me.” I had no clue what my purpose was and quite frankly thought I had messed up so bad that even God couldn’t put my life back together again. Within the last 6 years I started a new career, enjoyed being single, became a grandmother, reconnected with my family and at 57 I married the most amazing man ever. Because God never does anything small, He asks me to step out of my box and begin writing. Only God….if He did this for me, He will do it for you. Join us on the journey to discover Your Purpose Now.

 

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SAY GOODBYE TO THE BAD GUY

By Jesi Steiber—

He had only been a licensed driver for a few weeks. Tossing him my keys, I watched him full of excitement to make his first major purchase with money he earned at his new job. He wasn’t gone long, and followed the rules there and back. As he walked in the door, the first words out of his mouth pierced my heart. He scraped the side of my van when pulling it in to the garage. My heart sank as I stood to walk outside and survey the damage. He was honest with me, and certainly didn’t mean to do it. My mind raced over what I was going to say and how would I handle this new to us situation.

As I surveyed the damage, I couldn’t bring myself to speak the words racing through my mind. What was he thinking? How could he have done this to my van? Why didn’t he stop when he first heard the scrape of the wall against the door? The questions built as I stood in silence not knowing how to handle this. My husband was not home to help me navigate through this uncharted territory. Why did I always have to be the bad guy?

Over the years there have been many times I wanted to force my husband to discipline this child a specific way. My way. I didn’t believe he knew how to discipline his son, and my fear of the long term impact on this child grew. Pushing and pulling my husband one way or another, I couldn’t do enough to make him be the father I thought his son deserved. Convinced of his weaknesses, I felt the need to step in and take over in ways he couldn’t or wouldn’t. The need to control and force an end result was truly out of my love for his child. However, during challenging times it became more about the fear of what would happen if I didn’t take control.

“You can’t make your ex be a good parent. You can only be the best parent you know how to be” was the advice I received early in our marriage. I took it to heart and carried it with me for years. There was just one missing piece in this statement. I would add we can’t control our current spouse and others who have an influence on our children. It is this reality that will cause fear to rise up in our hearts. The anger, fear and frustration will only feed the chaos and stress in our family’s lives. It’s when we recognize we do not have control over these influences, we must lay down the need to control and put our trust in God. While not always easy, when we trust God with our children, step children included, we can truly walk in His peace as a parent. We can encourage and suggest our thoughts and opinions to our spouse or family members, but we must remember, as those feelings of frustration and control creep in, to ask ourselves who we are trusting in that moment.

At the end of the day, my husband stepped up and settled the issue of the damage to the van. It didn’t require I say a word. I didn’t have to be the bad guy. My initial reaction was that to an old wound in my heart. In fact, I stepped out of the way to let my husband be the father he was called to be. It’s amazing how God works through my obedience.

 

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Jesi Steiber lives in Fort Worth, Texas and is our newest addition to the MPN authors. She is married to a man she describes as “awesome,” who makes her smile every day. They have four children and four grandchildren. A favorite scripture is Ruth 3:11: “Now my daughter, do not fear. I will do for you whatever you ask. For all my people in the city know that you are a woman of excellence.”

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I NEED A DRINK!

By Deb DeArmond –

“They are like trees planted along the riverbank,
bearing fruit each season.
Their leaves never wither,
and they prosper in all they do” (Psalm 1:3 NKJV)

Recently on a business trip, I drove past the home where I lived for the first 19 years of my life. I was looking forward to seeing how the area had grown, and to reminisce about the days I spent playing with the neighborhood kids, roller skating up and down that familiar tree lined street.

They say you can’t go home again−and perhaps they were right. Nothing was as I remembered it. The house seemed smaller. The street, narrower. The neighborhood, somewhat dingy. There were cars parked on the front lawn. And my mother’s beautiful silver maple trees were dry and withered, neglected, and on death’s door.

What a critical reminder. Just as the trees are planted near the water to thrive and live as God envisioned them, I need living water daily−the Word of God−to live according to the image of Christ.

“They are like trees planted along the riverbank,
bearing fruit each season.
Their leaves never wither,
and they prosper in all they do” (Psalm 1:3 NKJV)

I’m not a person who could ever forget to eat lunch or dinner, because I got too busy to think about it. My stomach reminds me, loud and clear. It growls, I take action. What about my spirit−man? Are there pangs? Stirrings? Yes, always. But truthfully, I find it more difficult to sense them than should be the case.

God envisioned my life while I was still in the womb. He created me with a clear picture and purpose in mind. His Word is the nutrient packed source that will allow me to become that person and fulfill His purpose. There is no substitute, no Miracle-Gro in a jar, no aerosol version to shorten the process. It’s not meant to be brief! We were instructed to work out our salvation and that’s a journey. Life in Him is not an “add water and stir” kind of deal. Microwavable Christianity produces the same results as a microwaved grilled cheese sandwich−limp, pale and not particularly healthy. Or appealing.

Just as my mom’s beautiful trees reacted to neglect, so does my heart. I get sickly and thin, frail in my spirit. I’m subject to any little bug (fear, anger, resentment, loneliness) that might come my way, and unfortunately, that’s all pretty contagious. Strong winds bend me in two and take me to my breaking point. I snap suddenly as I am bumped by others and sense that I am fully exposed to the elements around me. I feel as naked and bare in a harsh world as a maple tree in late December.

His Word, even a little “before I run off to start my work day” verse, has a replenishing impact on my heart. Like streams in the desert, I can sense refreshing in my spirit. I feel renewed and quickened, ready to face the world and share my cup with others who are thirsty.

Oh Lord – please don’t let my heart become withered and dry. Thank you Father for your Word. I pray today for a physical manifestation of my thirst for you and the reminder to drink liberally from the truth of your Word!

 

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ONE TO ONE

By Jayme Hull −

Community is good.
Classes are helpful.
But one to one is great!

Have you heard about the Apple Store’s One to One program for their customers? I was amazed at the proficiency of this organized program. The entire time I was having my first teaching session with the instructor I couldn’t stop thinking,This is a perfect example of mentoring others in the body of Christ.”

Their promo on the website says:
One to One will help you do more than you ever thought possible with your new Mac.

Let’s just change the last two words in their statement for a Christian perspective. One to One will help you do more than you ever thought possible with your Lord Jesus Christ.

The Apple Company’s Personal Training Program is right on target as well. The slogan for this program has the following statement:
Personal Training at the Apple Store: Get up to a full hour of uninterrupted time to work one-on-one with a Trainer on the topic of your choice.

This is exactly what chapter two of Titus in the New Testament teaches to all believers. Mature, older Christian women are instructed to be encouragers and spend time mentoring younger woman.

Without realizing, we have allowed the Titus Mentoring concept to fall off the radar screen. As the days are becoming more and more evil, now is the time to make it a priority and be intentional with mentoring the next generation.

I am convinced mentoring changes lives, and when you begin to participate you will never be the same.

Do you have one hour every week or every other week to reach out and give another Christian woman your uninterrupted time? Would you be willing to share, and guide her into a closer and deeper walk with Christ? The more we give to others the more blessed we become.

We may not have the same amount of possessions or finances, but God gives us all the same amount of time in each day. How we spend our time is very important to God. Praise the Lord, for He gives us the freedom to choose how we will spend each minute of the day.

This week, will you consider giving one hour a week or biweekly to a younger Christian? Encourage and inspire her to live out and apply the Word of God to her life.

Pray for God’s guidance on how you manage your time.
Seek the Lord while He may be found.

“As God’s partners, we beg you not to accept this marvelous gift of God’s kindness and then ignore it. For God says, “At just the right time, I heard you. On the day of salvation, I helped you. Indeed, the right time is now” (2 Cor. 6:1-2 NLT).

Be encouraged, you are incredible women of God and He has a plan and purpose for each one of you. When you allow God to have His way and use you to minister to others you will be blessed in your own relationship with God as you shine for Him.

“But you will receive power when the Holy Spirit comes upon you. And you will be my witnesses, telling people about me everywhere in Jerusalem, throughout Judea, in Samaria, and to the ends of the earth” (Acts 1:8 NLT).

 

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Jayme Hull: Jayme is a graduate of New York University with a B.A. in Speech Communication Education and Musical Theater. She married her high school sweetheart John and together they live in Nashville TN. Jayme and John have three incredible godly adult children, two beautiful daughter-in-laws that love the Lord and one granddaughter . She went to NYC to meet the Broadway Entertainment world but instead she met the Lord Jesus Christ as her personal Savior. From that moment on her life was changed forever. Her new ministry, Woman Face toFace, is a Christ centered, Bible based, non-denomination ministry to equip women of all ages and stages of life to learn how to help each other as a mentor or being mentored. Check out the website atwww.jaymeh.com

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WHAT ABOUT MOM AND DAD?

 

By Deb DeArmond

“I’m ashamed of you both,” my mother said. She took a sidelong glance at my dad. “Larry, she’s concerned about you. She’s afraid for your safety – and mine. And Deb, there is no reason for you to shout at your dad. It’s simply not acceptable.” She looked at me sternly, something she rarely did. “You both love one other. I want each of you to apologize right now.”

She looked in my direction, clearly indicating I should go first.

“Dad, I’m sorry. I didn’t mean to be disrespectful. I love you and I am concerned.” He didn’t look up.

“Well if I had said something I needed to apologize for, I would. But I didn’t, so I don’t have to.” He sounded like a petulant child.

I sighed. That was as close as we were getting to resolution that night. My concern over his driving would once again wait for another time.

At 83, Dad had been involved in three accidents in just the previous six months. One man nearly lost his life, and Dad had been at fault, as he was in the other two. But he refused to stop driving, and I couldn’t simply ground him or take away his keys.

Raising my parents was far more difficult than raising my kids had ever been.

In 1900, there were only four million Americans over the age of 65. By the year 2000, that number exceeded 35 million, and by 2020, almost one in every four U.S. citizens will be a senior citizen. More and more people are faced with the prospect of caring for a parent who is 65 or older without invading the privacy, robbing the autonomy, and destroying the self-worth of their ageing relative. At the same time, the caregivers must preserve their sanity, deal with loss and stress and juggle the demands of eldercare with career, kids, and everyday life.

I was blessed that my parent’s days on this earth were not cut short. They both lived to the age of 84, with seven years separating my father’s death from that of my mother. Having been born late in their life meant that I was assisting seniors very early in mine. My dad turned 65 the year I turned 18.

When my husband and I realized they needed our help, there were no “how-to” books available; The Dummies Guide to Aging Parents, had not yet been written. There were few agencies or organizations to assist us through the maze of issues:
• Finances – are they giving it away carelessly? Is someone taking advantage of them? Will they have enough to pay for their care?
• Health care, Medicare Parts A & B. It’s a foreign language.
• Assisted living, independent assisted living, adult day care, convalescent care, in-home nursing. Huh?
• Recognizing the signs of dementia. Normal forgetfulness or something more?
• Depression in the elderly. How does it begin? What can be done?

And then there are a whole host of other things like living wills, medical power of attorney, and so on. I felt lost on good days and desperate on bad ones.

There are other issues to consider:
• The guilt that accompanies feeling impatient when they are slow or forgetful.
• The friction that occurs between siblings – caregivers and those that are not performing that duty.
• Conflict or resentment over the freedom of, or the criticism from, the non-caregiving siblings about how they are taking care of Mom or Dad
• The shameful awareness that you dread going to see them and the realization that the time spent with them now feels like an obligation.

The good new is that we made it through. My husband and I, my brother and his wife, formed a team that supported my folks as they prepared for the journey from this life to the next. Along the way, we gathered information, gained experience and enlisted allies.

Because this is an issue for so many of our readers, we are adding a new twice monthly feature entitled, What About Mom and Dad? We will explore lots of subjects including the role God asks us to take. There are some great resources available on this topic and we are going to help unearth them for you, our readers and ask you to share the ones you’ve discovered as well. Together, we can do this!

So watch for this new feature the first and third Tuesday of each month. Let us hear from you on this topic. What issues are you facing? How are you doing with the balancing act? It may not be the best of the tasks on your list, but if you are over 50 and your parents are still living, it’s probably there under the heading: “my purpose now”.

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POWER FROM THE ROCK

By Amy Layne Litzelman −

Excerpt from This Beloved Road: A Journey of Revelation and Worship

“In conclusion, be strong in the Lord [be empowered through your union with Him]; draw your strength from Him [that strength which His boundless might provides.]” Ephesians 6:10 (AMP)

On a trip to the mountains of central Idaho, I stood looking at a tree growing from a rock cliff and the Holy Spirit spoke to my heart, It is going to be very hard when you go home. Very hard. I’m going to make you like that tree, able to grow roots in the rock. I took a deep breath and prepared myself, as much as I knew to, but growing roots into stone is not an easy thing. Little did I know the course the Holy Spirit would take as he led me into this truth, into God himself.

As I began this journey deeper into my weakness and his strength, I was quickly reminded that humility is essential. As unbearable as the path ahead appeared, I had to choose immediately to submit to it, thereby opening the floodgates of his grace. “God sets himself against the proud but shows favor to the humble” (James 4:6, NLT). Grace enables us to do what is otherwise impossible.

I also began to learn a deeper, more experiential meaning of a few words, as the route would demand:

• Tenacity: to hold fast.[i]
• Perseverance: to persist, to maintain an effort, not to give in.[ii]
• Persistence: to continue firmly in a state or action in spite of obstacles or objections; persisting, steady, persevering, lasting;   to stand.[iii]
• Strength: quality of being strong, ability to endure, power or vigor, to make strong or stronger, to re-enforce.[iv]
• Stamina: power of endurance, staying power, vigor.[v]

Now, to walk in these attributes with our own strength is very different than finding a supernatural source in our weakness. The first lasts for a season until our strength is used up. The second starts at the point of our weakness, and so taps into a sovereign and unending strength. We were not created to be strong because of who we are or what we do. We can only truly be strong because of our union with our Creator, and this only in the realization of our total dependency on him.

As I read Ephesians 6:10 (AMP), suddenly the word be stood out. It says, “Be strong in the Lord [be empowered through your union with Him].” It doesn’t say to do strong, but to be strong. Our strength cannot come from our own actions, but from our submission to his strength. In 2 Corinthians 12:9-10, Paul records how he came to know that his weakness was the point of potential God was seeking after to demonstrate his own strength. In fact, it is God’s great desire to perfect his strength and power through our seemingly weak and useless bodies. Imagine the joy Paul felt as he realized the freedom he could gain in this place. “Therefore, I will all the more gladly glory in my weaknesses and infirmities, that the strength and power of Christ (the Messiah) may rest (yes, may pitch a tent over and dwell) upon me” (AMP)!

As I read this verse sometime later, I saw a picture in my mind of myself crying out to God, my face to the ground. Then I saw a tent being placed over me. The Spirit asked me, What do you see? Well, I could only see the tent; I could not see myself praying inside. The Spirit said, When you are weak but covered in God’s tent of strength, it is his strength that is visible to those around you, not your weakness. Wow! This was an amazing encouragement for me as I had been wondering how I could ever minister in this weak state. But in our humility, his grace and strength covers us.

Although the process has at times been long and wearisome, I can feel my roots going deeper. I can see his strength increasing. I have tasted the honey from the rock and have been refreshed from the waters that pour forth. I will declare with David, “The Lord lives! Blessed be my rock; and let the God of my salvation be exalted” (Psalm 18:46, AMP).

Originally posted on Amy Layne Litzelman. Read more by Amy at: http://AmyLayneLitzelman.com/

Shared by our friends at Living Better at 50+.com

 


[i] Alle, John Gage, Phd. Webster’s Encyclopedia of Dictionaries. 1981.Baltimore,MD: Ottenheimer Publishers, Inc. 383.
[ii] Alle, John Gage, Phd. Webster’s Encyclopedia of Dictionaries. 1981.Baltimore,MD: Ottenheimer Publishers, Inc. 275.
[iii] Alle, John Gage, Phd. Webster’s Encyclopedia of Dictionaries. 1981.Baltimore,MD: Ottenheimer Publishers, Inc. 275.
[iv] Alle, John Gage, Phd. Webster’s Encyclopedia of Dictionaries. 1981.Baltimore,MD: Ottenheimer Publishers, Inc. 368.
[v] Alle, John Gage, Phd. Webster’s Encyclopedia of Dictionaries. 1981.Baltimore,MD: Ottenheimer Publishers, Inc. 363.
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A TRIBUTE TO MY DADDY

By Melody Fawn Heal −

Remembrances of vegetable gardens, pets, a giving heart, weekly chores, church attendance, summer vacations, helping those in need, the voice of my dad calling out, “Mel-dy come here,” family prayer and Bible reading still chime clearly in my memory. Reflecting on the tribute I wrote for my father’s Going Home Service, confirms my strong admonishment I posed in last month’s post to everyone whose parents are still alive. Pause and take time to write a tribute to your father and mother, showering them with words of blessings and love. What a priceless gift this would be for which they will always be grateful!

In honor of my father, who has gone to be with the Lord 10 years ago now, this is my tribute to him. I wrote and read this at his celebration service after his passing.

Richard Eugene Lawson
August 25, 1926 – January 9, 2002

Daddy,

As I share my love, adoration and thankfulness for you today at your eternal graduation service, I know you are in heaven smiling down on us as we celebrate your homecoming with our Lord.

Some of the most vivid and pleasant memories I remember as a child are the Saturdays we spent on the Little League field watching Jimmy, your first born, play baseball. Thanks for providing me with all those nickels to buy Charm lollipops from the snack bar trailer at every game.

I genuinely valued the yearly summer vacations you planned for our family.  Especially, the four week trip we took to the Lawson Dairy Farm in Sugar Grove, Pennsylvania in our new 1969 tan Ford van. That vacation plus other numerous camping excursions developed  my love for fishing, hiking, campfires, God’s incredible nature and most importantly, quality family time.

As I reflect back on my childhood, it’s become apparent that the activities you involved me in, instilled character qualities of hard work, perfection, organization, and the importance of completing a task.  One such event was the family project of painting the trim and outside walls of our Flore Street home. You taught me to be conservative, not wasteful, and to value quality because it would endure.  Thank you for believing in me and constantly reminding me that “When there’s a will, there’s a way.”  You always exemplified the never give up kind of attitude.

Daddy, the most priceless gift you left me was the gift of a rich and solid spiritual love for God and His word.  Thank you for fulfilling your role as the head of your home by diligently bringing us together as a whole family every Saturday morning to read the Bible and pray.  The central importance of God in my life was learned as we faithfully attended church at Central Assembly of God each Sunday and Wednesday, as well as, special revival services and summer Vacation Bible Schools. What a legacy of faithfulness to the Lord you left behind for your children and grandchildren!

Daddy, your greatest joy was the fact that all your children served the Lord and your greatest desire was that we’d share His love with others…

In my July post, the remaining portion of,  A Tribute to My Daddy. May this month in which we celebrate fathers be one of peace, forgiveness, joy and healing as we strive to be women who follow after our Heavenly father’s own heart.

 

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Melody Heal: Melody has a desire for women to identify or rekindle their God inspired aspirations and dreams, as well as, making them become a reality. She has been married tO Doug, the love of her life, for 33 years, and they’ve been blessed with two incredible children, Heather and Blake, each married to their Christ-following soul mates.

For 21 years, Melody has had the privilege of impacting lives professionally as an educator serving as a teacher, curriculum director, and currently as the Dean of Academics at Bethany Christian School.

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TEARS IN A BOTTLE

By Karen DeArmond Gardner −

“You keep track of all my sorrows, collected my tears in your bottle. You have recorded each one in your book” (Psalm 56:8 NLT).

This must be a big book as I shed many tears in the course of my previous marriage. For the most part I don’t feel the pain I experienced in those years even when sharing part of my story. This morning was different. I read this verse and the shock of it hit me. The hurt was instantaneous and undeniable.

Dwelling in the past is a waste of time. I tend to detach when I talk about the past to avoid the emotions. Then there are those moments when I see, smell, hear or read something that immediately transports me into the past, feeling all the emotion I tried to hide from.

Memories flood my mind. So many tears I cried for my kids, for myself, even for him. Thinking my tears went unnoticed; my anger abates as I read the words yet again. You did not lose track of me in my sorrow, you captured my tears in your bottle, yet I wonder…what is written in your book about my tears?

Each tear we have shed He recorded in His book. To record is not just to write something down, but writing for the purpose of preserving. God is tracking, collecting and preserving our sorrow and tears. He does not take our pain lightly.

In Revelation 21, after God makes all things new, “He will wipe away every tear from their eyes, and there will be no more death or sorrow or crying or pain. All these things are gone forever.” And the one sitting on the throne said, “Look, I am making everything new!” And then He said to me, “Write this down, for what I tell you is trustworthy and true” (NLT).

I imagine Him taking that big ol’ book of His, with all the stories of our tears, ripping it up and tossing it into the fire. Then He begins writing a new story–with no tears, no sorrow, no pain, and no death.

With every tear I shed, He is preserving my story. I ask myself why He wants to preserve my story, when it occurs to me. He wants me to write the story of my tears.

How about you? Are you ready to write the story of your tears?

Those who are wise will take all this to heart; they will see in our history the faithful love of the Lord. (Psalm 107:43 NLT)

 

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Karen DeArmond-Gardner: I found myself in my early 50′s shattered, divorced and without a job – moving to a new state to begin over again. There were times I thought the “start would stop me.” I had no clue what my purpose was and quite frankly thought I had messed up so bad that even God couldn’t put my life back together again. Within the last 6 years I started a new career, enjoyed being single, became a grandmother, reconnected with my family and at 57 I married the most amazing man ever. Because God never does anything small, He asks me to step out of my box and begin writing. Only God….if He did this for me, He will do it for you. Join us on the journey to discover Your Purpose Now.

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SEASONS OF LIFE

By Jayme Hull −

Each season of life brings its own identity for each one of us. As the seasons change, so do we. Some of us love warm colors and bright sunshine and others treasure the cool breezes and snowy days. Some seasons of life hold good memories while others may be colored with sadness. But God is always in every situation.

It was never God’s plan for us to weather the seasons of life alone. The Holy Spirit is your ultimate Mentor. Our heavenly Father planned it, Jesus Christ made our salvation possible and the Holy Spirit is with us on this Earth to guide and walk us through it.

As a mature and wise woman of God we have life experiences that the Holy Spirit has used to teach us to be more like Christ. Now is the time to step up and begin to pour our lives into the next generation of believers as their mentors.

We can see the examples of Mentoring in the Bible with Naomi and Ruth, Moses and Joshua, Elijah and Elisha and many others. Clearly, God’s plan is for the older and wiser godly person to mentor the younger, inexperienced person as they seek to know the Lord more intentionally.

Sharing our life experiences with the younger women in the next generation is our calling and privilege. Mentoring is not something we need to work at. As mentors we are simply sharing our life experiences and helping others to have the courage to follow Christ in their daily lives.

“From the wise mind comes wise speech; the words of the wise are persuasive. Kind words are like honey-sweet to the soul and healthy to the body” (Proverbs 16:24-25 NLT).

We are teaching other women how to daily apply the Word of God and abide in Christ. Would you consider praying the following statements as you seek God’s will for your life as a Mentor.

  1. Lord, open my eyes to the woman you would like me to mentor.
  2. Lord, I give you complete control of my life. I am available. Use me!
  3. Lord, give the two of us a divine appointment and bring us together.
  4. Speak Lord! Your servant is listening.

Be encouraged to pour out your heart to the Lord and trust Him for the answers.

“Be somebody to someone.” Mother Teresa

God may have a plan to entrust you with the next Esther or Deborah of the twenty-first century who needs a godly mature women to walk beside her with wisdom and guidance.

Will you be the one to say Yes, Lord! I will be the one! I will be a mentor.

 

 

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Jayme Hull: Jayme is a graduate of New York University with a B.A. in Speech Communication Education and Musical Theater. She married her high school sweetheart John and together they live in Nashville TN. Jayme and John have three incredible godly adult children, two beautiful daughter-in-laws that love the Lord and one granddaughter . She went to NYC to meet the Broadway Entertainment world but instead she met the Lord Jesus Christ as her personal Savior. From that moment on her life was changed forever. Her new ministry, Woman Face toFace, is a Christ centered, Bible based, non-denomination ministry to equip women of all ages and stages of life to learn how to help each other as a mentor or being mentored. Check out the website atwww.jaymeh.com

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THE PRIME OF LIFE

By Deb DeArmond −

“Be on the alert to recognize your prime at whatever time of your life it may occur.”

It’s what the fortune cookie in my hand predicted. I swear that’s what it said. It made me smile because I believe it.

At 50+ (and we don’t have to discuss exactly how many that plus represents) I am discovering just exactly why this is referred to as “the prime of life.” Unfortunately, that phrase is often used in a negative way. “She’s passed her prime” or in a morbid way, as in “She was cut down in the prime of life.” And if you carefully read the rest of the story, prime is usually north of 50 and south of 60.

So what precisely does prime mean? Dust off that dictionary (do you actually still have one or do you use the internet these days?) Here’s what it says:

Prime: adjective, noun, and verb.

It’s a multi-faceted word, and I like that idea. Think adaptable, flexible. Able to reinvent, repurpose and rearrange. Isn’t that what life at 50+ requires?  The dictionary goes on to define prime as follows:

  1. of the first importance; demanding the fullest consideration: a prime requisite.
  2. of the greatest relevance or significancea prime example.
  3. of the highest eminence or rank: the prime authority on Chaucer.
  4. of the greatest valueprime building lots.
  5. first-rate: This steak is prime!

Do you see it? Value. Importance. Relevant. Significant.

But here’s the best part. When used as a verb the word is defined as “to prepare or make ready for a particular purpose or operation.”

And there you have it. Have you wondered whether you’ve accomplished in life what God intended for you? Here’s a clue: if you’re still here, you’re not done.

Throughout our life we prepared: pre-school, senior exams, career choices, pre-marital counseling, pre-natal education, college savings accounts for the kids, and 401k’s for retirement. But eventually, we slow all that down and are in danger of sputtering out before we finish strong.

At this prime stage in life we still need to prepare. The challenge is many of us are unclear about what to prepare for.  Here are a few steps to help set you on your path. Ask yourself:

  • What do I know? How can I use it to benefit others? Can you cook? Volunteer in the kitchen of a homeless shelter. Do you love to read? Sign up at your local library to read to children or help someone struggling with literacy problems. Familiar with the area in which you live? Join the local welcome wagon organization to help newcomers acclimate. Volunteer at church, a museum, or the local school. Write articles, start a blog, teach someone to sew, garden or cook. If you’ve got it, use it!
  • What do I want to learn? What have I put off doing? Just because you’re in your prime doesn’t mean you can’t learn something new and wonderful. Try golf, skiing, learn to speak French, learn to cook French, learn to ignore the French and their “I eat everything and weigh nothing” superiority! Read through the Bible in a year. Take a class on Women of the Civil War for the fun without the stress of the grade. Stop learning, and you start getting old.
  • Sit quietly and soak up God. It’s prime time to take advantage of the chance to indulgently sop up God through meditation and prayer. Sit before Him and soak. Listen. Breathe Him in. Ask His spirit to direct you so that you may align with His perfect will for this time in your life.

Remember the scripture, “Finish what you started in me, God. Your love is eternal – don’t quit on me now!” (Psalm 138:8 MSG).

 

 

 

 

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